Talk:Toby Cavanaugh/@comment-155.41.54.54-20130903141059/@comment-5064287-20131210071130

Its not taking sides, when he is good for her. But you can not have it both ways. Toby risked his life to help Soencer by joining the A team. if you think that solving Alisons murder is sooo important then you need to give him credit for that. i am sorry, but that proves that you just want to turn anything to blame Toby, not because of any reason other then you think that being a strong woman means playing hard to get, and not forgiving a guy until you make him feel hurt. Thats actually weakness. Not strength. A strong person can forgive. Not make someone jump through hoops. Playing hard to get is the most bitchy, girly, thing anyone can do. Get real. And I still don't see how finding out if his kmother was murdered could ever be less important to a good son. Beware people like Ezra who spit on the women that gave them birth. Not the ones like Toby who maybe don't do the right thing but do it from love for their mom.

Keeping someone alive and safe is more importan then making them temporary happy. And that is why Toby joined the A team. For the selfless reason of helping Spencer even if it meant him losing her. That is selfless.