Talk:Spaleb/@comment-24901353-20170725152242

I will analyze this situation in a psychological perspective since Psychology is based on facts: Spaleb wasn't in love. Obviously, we know that these two couldn't have their first choice, so they went for each other out of fear of being alone/get over their exes. They both were hiding their true feelings by wanting to feel loved again/wanting to be in love to take away the pain of not receiving it from the one they want. Spencer proves this as she mentioned how she wanted to feel what it was like to be in love again after her and Toby broke up. Spaleb was infatuation. A lot of times, people confuse infatuation with love because of the strong emotions you feel, when in reality, it's just a deep lust or attraction. Infatuation is also when you only think or obsess about your feelings for someone, and don't consider their feelings about the situation. This is proved when Spencer had only asked Hanna about her feelings for Caleb, and she didn't ask Caleb. She just assumed that he was over his ex because her and him "did it" when she confessed. Another example is how fast the both of them got over the break up. Yes, Spencer cried during the breakup, but after that she was fine. Unlike with her breakup with Toby back in season 3, she spent weeks crying and even fell into a state of depression. If she really loved Caleb as she claimed, it would have taken her months or years to get over it, like with Toby. My point is, the two felt lonely and lacked the feeling of being loved, so they turned to each other for that support. That's why Spencer didn't want to let go of Caleb when she saw that he was still in love with Hanna;she didn't want to be left alone with her feelings of Toby. There's also the fact that Spencer feels this need to feel loved and wanted because her family showed a lack of love and attention, and so she goes and looks for it in guys regardless who they are to her close friends/family. This also explains why she ignored Hanna's signs of discomfort that she (Spencer) picked up on. She was in desperate need of love. However, even though Spaleb being together makes sense to some of you, you can't just keep holding onto someone who just doesn't feel that way about you. It's hard, but you have to accept the reality of it: their heart is with someone else. It might make all the sense in the world for you to be with someone, but in the end, of they're in love with someone else, you have to accept that reality and let it go.